Relationships?

I had a really interesting conversation tonight with a married male friend of mine.

Can people ever be 100% faithful to one another?

I grew up in the midwest, under the impression that every marriage and relationship that I was witness to was bulletproof, drama proof, resistant to any wear or tear.   Is this too much to ask for, or maybe this doesn’t apply to relationships on the East/West Coast.

“No that’s not the case.” my friend said, a bit teary eyed.  “All relationships take effort and work, and are not easy.  You just have to figure out if you want to get through it.”  This friend has what I perceive to be a really solid fabulous relationship.  When I’ve bumped into him and his wife, I really hope that down the road I can have what they have.  I see it being an amazing partnership, but not a perfect one.  I don’t know if that perfection exists.

I’ve been single for a VERY long time, so maybe my thoughts on having the “perfect” relationship isn’t realistic.  No one is perfect, I’m certainly not.  Should I point my finger at someone, if I’m just as guilty myself?

Thinking about all of this reminds me of the moment I realized my parents were normal people.  Does that make sense at all?  Ever have that defining moment where you realize, “Hey, my parents aren’t superhumans, sure they’re amazing and I love them, but they’re not perfect at the end of the day…no one is.”

More later.

One thought on “Relationships?

  1. Michel de Montaigne: Marriage is like a cage; one sees the birds outside desperate to get in, and those inside equally desperate to get out.

    It’s not easy. I agree with your friend, it’s all about choices. Hollywood has us all believing that love is a feeling. It’s not, it’s an action. Love the feeling comes from love the action. It takes work and effort to keep love the action going when love the feeling starts to fade.

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